A way to Heal People Pleasing Syndrome which Leads to Self Sabotage
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Self Sabotage
You can prevent self sabotage, you may not yet know how or remember how to, or you know how but don’t really practice it. Whatever the case is first drop all judgement and forgive yourself. In time with the right guidance, healing and support, you will learn to remember how to prevent and avoid self sabotage. You will begin to live with the awareness of self destructive behaviours like people pleasing and perfectionism. There is a way to heal and recover from people pleasing, it is the way of unconditional self love.
Unconditional Self Love will help you prevent people pleasing, and if people pleasing does happen like life will happen on life’s term especially to test you on your journey, unconditional self love will support and nurture you so you begin to learn how to prevent self sabotage, and avoid self sabotaging behaviours when you make a mistake.
On the path of unconditional self love you will learn to see and accept yourself and situations as they are, come to know yourself, and accept the parts of you (sometimes referred to as the shadow by Carl Jung see video below) that are most difficult for you to face, accept and love. When you know yourself, you know your path. You know what is in alignment with you, you know your likes and dislikes. You know your tendencies, you know your triggers, you know what you will have to sacrifice, and acknowledge you will have to make sacrifices to live the life that is destined for you. Self knowledge is key to unconditional self love.
Carl jung and the shadow
Here is a link for the video if for whatever reason it doesn’t show up on this page. https://youtu.be/t0vrvljK6Bs?si=HboeylCMSvAKWJjZ
Nature is very giving and loving when it comes to opening up to knowing oneself. Nature accepts you as you are not as you want to be seen. You can begin or add exploration of nature to your self discovery and self knowledge Journey.
The journey of unconditional self love has always been about you loving yourself unconditionally, not seeking someone or something else to love you unconditionally. It is a journey of total self acceptance without projecting parts of you that you repress, suppress, deny, hide, reject, disown or rebel against so you can be pleasing to others. This allows you to start to live your true authentic self. Through healing, retraining and taking actions to cultivate and nurture practices that will support you to live from a place of pure unconditional self love, which is a place of health and wellbeing.
For me Unconditional Self Love has been mostly about learning to love my shadows especially the uglinessUnconditional self love has helped me to overcome and heal from depression and anxiety many times. It has brought me many natural holistic tools and technologies to manage and cope occasionally when anxiety and depression are triggered. Rather than fearing or fighting anxiety or depression, unconditional self love helps me to heal and recover from it with grace and compassion.
Unconditional self love has also helped me reverse and heal Hashimoto, Neutropenia, IBS and all sorts of illnesses picked up as a result of childhood wounding, Trauma, Stress, Abuse and Post Traumatic stress. It as also helped me to overcome and heal addictive patterns such as nicotine dependency and alcoholism as a coping mechanism. Once you know unconditional self love, you no longer seek to harm yourself, abuse yourself, disrespect yourself, hide yourself, repress yourself, self destruct or only seek to show only the beautiful parts of you. You allow yourself to be as you are in every moment, and interestingly you begin to love others unconditionally.
My Unconditional Self Love program is aimed at high achieving women like me, that have a tendency to push for perfection, are often too busy, always chasing achievements, are not in a loving stable relationship, and cant’t easily relax and unwind naturally I.e. without alcohol or any other substances for relaxation, due to issues that have their root in childhood wounding, abuse, stress and post traumatic stress. This program is also for you whether you are a man or woman if it calls or speaks to you. Always happy to be of service.
Here is a link to Book a free 30 minutes call on the program page https://www.queenoluwatobiloba1.com/programs so we can get to know each other, and see the ways we can work together. Thank you for stopping by and reading this beautiful creation that brought about some real life memories for me. I pray and hope that you are able to love yourself unconditionally in the way you live your life.
Many Blessings Queen Oluwatobiloba - High Priestess of Ifa, Osun and Olorisa. Medicine Woman, Artist, Human, Spirit and All.
Unconditional Love Always. Asé Asé Asé
